Who are you and what do you want?
Took a bit of a break here to let the well replenish itself, let the fields lie fallow, let the sediment settle– and any other nature metaphors that might fit. I’m back now and ready to crank up the rusty writing machine and noodle brain….
In the interest of starting a conversation back up with all [...]
Which boat are you in?
Many of you come to this site because you’re looking for information that might give you an advantage with your difficult mom/stepmom relationship.
You want something extra to help you create a shift. Movement in the right direction. A breakthrough out of nowhere.
You’re the only one who knows what it’s like in your particular situation.
If you’re [...]
National TV production company seeks stepfamily in crisis for an in-house pilot
This just in! Please help us spread the word!
If you’re struggling in your stepfamily (either with your husband or stepchildren–or both) and you’d like to get some help, a major production company in New York is looking for YOU to film a pilot!
The show will never be shown to the public and will be used [...]
Happy Stepmother’s Day!
A happy day to all the stepmoms out there!
Please know that all your efforts make a difference. All the time and taking care of the stepkids, all the things you remember to do (that others don’t even seem to realize are on the list), all the ways in which you try to be flexible [...]
Why I sometimes want to give up too
Most of our readers are stepmoms. This makes sense to me because it’s the stepmoms who are locked out of the house, waiting outside in the snow. The dads have a lot of power, because, hey, these are their kids and they get the final say. And the moms certainly have a lot of power [...]
Read more »High Heels in the Dung Pasture (or Further Adventures in Taking Responsibility)
So I have a moment at the end of the Dr. Phil Show that we did a few weeks ago that I’m hoping no one will see, but that my ex-husband David assures me is the one moment they will probably be sure to include (air date: Dec. 1).
Great… Just what I wanted to hear.
I [...]
Dr. Phil episode on conflict between moms, stepmoms and dads to air Dec. 1st!
Fire up your recorders! The show we taped last week in L.A. will be on Tuesday, December 1st. We're on the first half of the show (including David, Carol's husband and my ex – poor guy) and then there's another mom/stepmom/dad combo on during the second half of the show.
I had big plans to write [...]
Dr. Phil: now taking questions from the audience, as well as video questions
It appears that the mom from the mom/stepmom team that was to appear on the show this coming Tuesday has changed her mind. The show would now like to instead focus on taking questions from both moms and stepmoms in the audience, so you're in luck if you live in Los Angeles or close by, [...]
Read more »The shifting sands of connections
There's a funny little thing that can happen with people you love that drags the relationship down without you even noticing it – until after the fact.
I just came back from visiting my daughter Sophie, who moved out a short time ago into her own cool, little abode with roommates just north of the university. [...]
Happy Stepfamily Day!!
Happy Stepfamily Day to all the stepfamilies out there!
Being in a stepfamily has its unique challenges, but there are also many opportunities to create new and lasting connections, new opportunities for love and support. Surprising little islands of closeness and intimacy, the chance to really see each other anew. Sure, I hear many [...]

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