Five Surprising Things This Divorced Mom Learned After Becoming a Stepmom

      It really is a mindf**k. Okay, so after almost seven years of writing about divorced moms and stepmoms, I thought I understood how and why so many stepmoms were having such a hard time. The kids weren’t hers. The ex-wife didn’t want her around. Perhaps her partner was unwittingly just plugging her […]

More than one day of thanks

There’s a very good chance that your thinking is skewed on the side of non-gratitude. Especially as it relates to this topic of divorce-connected families. Just like news, a car wreck on the side of the road or gossip, it’s the drama, chaos and conflict that catches our eye and rivets our attention in our […]

What’s under the surface?

I caught the tail end of the Little League World Series (Japan vs. the U.S.) today…. I stopped mid-channel-surfing because I thought–wait–what are these little kids doing playing such an intense game of baseball? And why is it on TV? I was reminded of, many years ago, living in Spain as a child and my […]

The Power of a Name: Just-A-Stepmoms and Bio-Moms

I sometimes like to think of weird things that might have extremely large numbers assigned to them. …How many breaths each and every creature that’s ever lived has taken, all together. …How many times the clouds have passed over the sun as someone looked skyward. …How many times you’ve eaten lunch. …How many times your […]

Why Owning Your Own Crap Empowers You

Most of us are reluctant to turn the flashlight back on ourselves and look at the ways we might have screwed up. After all, who likes feeling like they’ve messed up? Like the balance of power has shifted in the story and all of a sudden, instead of the other person being so predictably wrong […]