Who are you and what do you want?
Took a bit of a break here to let the well replenish itself, let the fields lie fallow, let the sediment settle– and any other nature metaphors that might fit. I’m back now and ready to crank up the rusty writing machine and noodle brain….
In the interest of starting a conversation back up with all [...]
Which boat are you in?
Many of you come to this site because you’re looking for information that might give you an advantage with your difficult mom/stepmom relationship.
You want something extra to help you create a shift. Movement in the right direction. A breakthrough out of nowhere.
You’re the only one who knows what it’s like in your particular situation.
If you’re [...]
A course, a call and new videos!
Announcing an in-depth course just for stepmoms, a free How Did She Do It? call and no-holds barred videos from Carol and Jen!
** Have you lost your desire to even try anymore with the ex-wife?
** Have you been burned one too many times?
** Have you been drained by the constant stress, anxiety, hurt feelings and [...]
Success Story: Jesica and Mayra
What does it look like when the “bio-mom” and stepmom transform the ex-wife/stepmom relationship from hell? Here, we talk to two women who were formerly at war for years, but have suddenly made a breakthrough into a whole, new world of cooperation and promise.
Mayra (the mom) and Jesica (the stepmom) from the D.C. area tell [...]
Could you SPEAK to the ex-wives of America?!
Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith were on Oprah today with their children—ALONG WITH HIS EX-WIFE.
Fascinating stuff.
Will was married to Sheree Zampino for four years (1992-95) and they have a 17 year-old son named Trey. She is now married to former San Diego Chargers player, Pastor Terrell Fletcher. Will and Jada also have two [...]
Happy Stepmother’s Day!
A happy day to all the stepmoms out there!
Please know that all your efforts make a difference. All the time and taking care of the stepkids, all the things you remember to do (that others don’t even seem to realize are on the list), all the ways in which you try to be flexible [...]
Happy Mother’s Day!
To ANYONE who takes care of our children, whether you made them or not, I salute you! Thank for all you do for these little beings (and sometimes medium and big ones) who can be moody, uncooperative, whiny, over-sensitive and angry–but also wonderfully innocent, vulnerable, warm, playful, all-accepting, and sweetly kind.
Our children need ALL of [...]
Why I sometimes want to give up too
Most of our readers are stepmoms. This makes sense to me because it’s the stepmoms who are locked out of the house, waiting outside in the snow. The dads have a lot of power, because, hey, these are their kids and they get the final say. And the moms certainly have a lot of power [...]
Read more »Taming the cobra – Part 3
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Feeling like there’s an enemy in your midst can be really stressful. This is what a lot of stepmoms and ex-wives that are stuck with [...]
Taming the cobra – Part 2
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“Since emotional processes can work faster than the mind, it takes a power stronger than the mind to bend perception, override emotional circuitry, and provide [...]

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