Five Surprising Things This Divorced Mom Learned After Becoming a Stepmom


      It really is a mindf**k. Okay, so after almost seven years of writing about divorced moms and stepmoms, I thought I understood how and why so many stepmoms were having such a hard time. The kids weren’t hers. The ex-wife didn’t want her around. Perhaps her partner was unwittingly just plugging her […]

Download a free sample of Skirts at War!

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How are your instincts actually working against you as a divorced mom or stepmom? Find out by downloading a free sample chapter from Skirts at War: Beyond Divorced Mom/Stepmom Conflict! Or purchase the book today from Amazon! “Through personal accountability, Skirts at War shows parents and stepparents how to restore a sense of belonging and significance to their […]

“Skirts at War” is Complete and Available for Preorder!

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Skirts at War: Beyond Divorced Mom/Stepmom Conflict.” It’s the book that probably should have been written before “No One’s the Bitch.” (NOTB is more Kumbaya-let’s-all-get-along. Skirts at War is more real-life-this-sucks-now-what?) Click here to preorder Skirts At War!! If you’re stuck with the other household and they have no interest in getting along with you – […]

Help Us Choose a Subtitle For Our Book!


“Skirts At War” is finally written, now all we need is a subtitle! We’d love you to help us by taking 1 minute out of your day to answer our one-question survey. Click here to take survey. Simply click on your favorite subtitle and then hit “Done” at the bottom of the page when you’re, well, […]

Your Mind is Effing You Over – Not the Ex-Wife, Your Ex or The Stepmom


Have you ever thought about how weird it is that so many people are divorced now?   I remember when my kids were in elementary school and I was still married, we were surrounded by other nuclear families during drop-offs and pick-ups and school events. In junior high, not so much. In high school, neither […]

Who gets more “emotional authority?”


One day while we were talking on the phone, we realized: one reason these relationships between households can seem so impossible is because we have the two most important relationships of our lives competing against each other: parent and child vs. husband and wife. This creates a dynamic in relationships that we like to call […]

Both Sides Lose: Brandi Glanville and LeAnn Rimes Cibrian


If there’s one thing I wish I could tell LeAnn Rimes Cibrian and Brandi Glanville, it would be: keep it to yourselves. Or rather, keep it between yourselves and out of the spotlight. “It” being their very public disagreement currently playing itself out on Twitter and as of today, in a gossip magazine. The tiff initially […]

More than one day of thanks

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There’s a very good chance that your thinking is skewed on the side of non-gratitude. Especially as it relates to this topic of divorce-connected families. Just like news, a car wreck on the side of the road or gossip, it’s the drama, chaos and conflict that catches our eye and rivets our attention in our […]

A Webinar with Jenna Korf and Margaret Paul on the Challenges of Finding Love and Acceptance in Stepfamilies

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  Do you feel undervalued? Do you long for love and acceptance? If so, join Jenna on Wednesday, October 24th as she has the honor of speaking with best-selling author, Margaret Paul, to discuss why so many women still struggle to find love and acceptance in their stepfamilies. During the free teleseminar/webinar, you’ll have an […]

Had Enough of the Mom or Stepmom? It’s Time to Move On


Have you had enough? What if she never changes? What if she doesn’t stop trying to turn your stepchildren against you and accusing you of things you didn’t do? What if she doesn’t stop overstepping boundaries and trying to make you look like a bad mom? What if this is just how she is? I […]

Damn Expectations…


I’m going to take a guess here: nothing in your situation is what you expected. Is it? We’ve all heard that expectations lead to disappointment, because inevitably, things turn out differently. But we had no idea just how off our expectations could be, did we? Stepmoms thought that mom would be thankful to have a […]

And The Name of Our New Book Is…


  “Skirts At War: Creating Peace Amidst Divorce Mom and Stepmom Conflict.” This book is all about YOU. It’s about finding YOUR peace and thriving regardless of what the other woman in your situation is doing. That’s what’s so great, you don’t need her to do anything differently in order for YOU to be happy. More to […]

Whadya know: being wrong feels like being right!


One subject that we talk a lot about here is how difficult it can be to see the other person’s perspective. And because you can’t see it, you end up digging in your heels in a difficult situation, attributing intentions to them that may be wildly off the mark and stoking your own emotional fires. […]

Mother’s Day vs. Stepmother’s Day? We celebrate you all!

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As most of us know, this Sunday is Mother’s Day. And then… one week later, it’s Stepmother’s Day. But rather than put up one post this weekend and then… another one next week… we’d like to take this opportunity to salute, in Sandra Bullock’s words, “All the moms that take care of the babies and […]

Never-before-seen Carol and Jen videos!

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I’ve had these three videos of Carol (my kids’ stepmom and co-author of No One’s the Bitch) and I hanging around in a tech vault somewhere and completely forgot about them!They’re Part 2 of the following topics: The most common problems between divorced moms and stepmoms What to do if “the other woman” doesn’t want […]