Your new FREE Member’s Community

With all the extra activity from our readers on the blog and Facebook, it’s clear to Jenna and I that you want to interact and support each other.

However, we know there are probably a lot of folks who want to participate, but aren’t comfortable sharing such private details on Facebook or in the public forum.

So… in order to give everyone the opportunity to support and be supported,  we’ve decided to make the private Member’s Community free to everyone.

We want all of our readers to have a safe haven where they can share their deepest feelings with their fellow divorced moms and stepmoms, and not worry about it being publicized.

And here’s why:

So many wonderful things have been happening on our site and Facebook page.

Finally, more moms are becoming involved….

We’ve had some simply amazing, in-depth and sometimes very moving conversations lately, where BOTH sides are working really hard to help the other understand: what is the inner world of a stepmom or divorced mom really like? Why would someone act in a particular way? What are they possibly thinking? Feeling?

I cannot express how much this means to me, to see this happening.

Truth be told, around October and November of last year, I was seriously considering walking away from this work.

I felt burnt out, depleted and sometimes very confused that I seemed to be talking to mostly stepmoms (though I love you guys!), instead of cultivating a conversation BETWEEN both sides.

It was disheartening and at times very frustrating. Something about this work was just not working.

On a whim, I reached out to my new business partner, Jenna Korf, to see if she’d like to work together and look — here we are!

I owe Jenna a huge debt of gratitude.

Having a new stepmom voice on the blog has, ironically, enabled me to feel like I can speak even more authentically for the moms, instead of trying so hard to constantly straddle both fences. That can be a little crazy-making at times.

Jenna and I have had many a conversation (and recorded a few of them, just for kicks) where we’ve both been truly surprised by the real feelings that we have in our roles as stepmom and mom — ones we know other women “on our side” struggle with too.

She challenges me to think bigger, broader. She’s a tireless and detail-oriented partner, who’s willing to put in long hours by my side for the sheer joy of making a difference.

Our enthusiasm for all the things we’re learning and exploring, all the things we want to share with all of you just keeps growing.


… along those lines, we made a decision last night.

We want to make it super-easy to deepen our conversations with you – and especially those you have with each other — so we’re not going to charge anyone for the use of our member’s community. (Paid members will be getting a refund.)

We want you to all have a safe, private place to interact with each other. To learn from each other. To get support — and give it.

To see you sharing your pain with each other and then witness the caring support from our little “tribe” — the honesty, the vulnerability — well, it just makes our hearts swell.

We’re marveling at you all.

Thank you for elevating the conversation. For opening your own hearts. For taking the time to post your incisive comments and insights.

This is what it’s all about, people!



So please, join us. Continue to get to know each other and ask the questions you need answered.

More news:

Videos by Jen

I bit the bullet and finally got over myself enough to record some videos I’ve been meaning to do for YEARS (you try it!), about how I came to write this book and my vision for creating a new, healthier culture after divorce and remarriage. They’re on our Facebook page.

Thought Experiment: Fun with celebrities! Focus your mind and create a huge wave of change!

We hope you’ll join us for a bold, crazy “thought experiment” we’re conducting on Facebook. We’d like to harness the power of group intention to manifest an interview with Jada Pinkett Smith, Will Smith, Sheree Zampino Fletcher (Will’s ex) and Terrell Fletcher (Sheree’s husband) to talk about how THEY created their cooperative, divorce-connected family.

What kind of change can we create in our culture if we succeed? Help us get there by thinking good thoughts!

New, mini-guides for some of the most common problems you ask us about, coming soon:

  • How do you know when you should just stop trying?
  • Releasing resentment
  • Creating healthy boundaries
  • Restoring emotional balance in a crisis
  • Reframing your challenges to find the hidden gifts

We love y’all!

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  1. Ruth Porter says:

    THANK YOU!!!!!!!! >>>>tears<<<< I am one of those people that prefers to remain private. Sometimes I chime in here and there. But I cannot tell you how much this site means to me. What you both have done, everything…it gives me so much relief, insight, HOPE. For the first time in 7 years, I am feeling HOPE again. THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!!!!

  2. You’re welcome, Ruth! And thank you so much for your kind words. That’s the whole reason we’re doing this. We want everyone to have access to the support they need :).

  3. Jennifer and Jenna. What a great service you’re providing to many moms and stepmoms that really want to make a difference in the way families can function today. Women often feel threatened not only be their ex’s new partner but by society as a whole. What are they going to think of me if…?
    Good luck to both of you and especially to the women sharing freely.


    AKA The Stepmom Coach

  4. How do we subscribe? I tried, but it’s still asking me for a credit card?

  5. Thanks so much, Claudette. Great point about the adversarial role of society too. It’s not easy to take this path. We consider our readers to be brave pioneers, which takes guts and a bit of the rebel mentality. :-)

    Celisa, yes, that’s right – but it is for just one penny. We are doing this for two reasons….

    One, it makes people use their real names. This is preferable to having people sign up only using an email address, where we don’t really know who they are. If people can’t participate respectfully, then it’s one follow-up conversation and then they’re out, which is how we’ve handled things in our Public Forum. No exceptions. We figure signing up with your real name will cut down on any potential “spying” behavior, or the temptation for people to randomly flame others, because we’ll KNOW who you are.

    Also, a purchase is the starting point for our membership site software process. One cent isn’t entirely free, but it’s the closest we could get! We know some people might feel squirmy about signing up this way, but it’s through paypal and we can’t see your financial information, nor can we make a charge of any kind without your permission.

    Hope that addresses your concerns! Let me know if you have any other questions. :-)

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